Resilience

First I should assure you that sadness, anger, rage, resentment, hate¡Xthe whole range of emotions you feel about your parents¡¦ problems and their effect on your lives is normal and makes sense. However, after a while, and I hope that you will keep that time brief, I suggest you to pause and start putting your live in order again. Negative feelings give one short-lived satisfaction. They relieve tension. In the long run, however, they are counterproductive. When you face parental problems basically there should be two objectives: one ,to make life smoother for yourself, and two, to be helpful to your parents. Wasting valuable time being angry, hurt, resentful, bitter or consumed with hate prevents your accomplishing those goals, for example, your schoolwork.
Before you take any concrete actions, you should make clear your standpoint: first, be neutral. Do not be partial to any one of your parents. Second, the divorce is neither your fault nor your responsibilit...